Create the relationships you want

Relationships are amazing triggers for all sorts of emotions - love, passion, hate, jealousy, pride and stress, to name just a few. And once triggered, we can find ourselves hijacked by emotions that lead to feelings of being out of control and/or hopelessness. This applies to all our relationships - your our children, partner, friends, relatives or colleagues.

If your relationship is not how you want it to be, now's the time to change what you're doing to get it how you want it.

The problem is that when something's not going right, there's a tendency to focus on the things that are wrong about the person or situation. However, the more you focus on the things you don't want, the more you get them. This is because what you focus on, you attract - or, to put it another way, what you focus on, you expand and strengthen.

So if you want more bad behaviour, arguments, shouting and hurt, just continue to do what you're doing. But if you'd like to have more control over what's happening around you, then click here and start the 'relationship' exercise.

Because what you focus on, you expand and strengthen, you need to switch your focus from what's wrong to what's right. You may feel that there's little that is right about a particular person, but I promise there will be something! And the more you focus on the positive, the more you'll see.